Relationships // July 7, 2014

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Whether he’s happy or not, the mention of couple’s therapy is enough to send any guy running. The idea of airing out his dirty laundry in front of a stranger isn’t exactly what he’d consider a day well spent. But if your long-term relationship is in trouble, and you want to fix it, couples therapy may be just what you and your partner need. With that being said, knowing when couples therapy is a viable option is important. It obviously isn’t for everyone and every situation. Read on to see if couples therapy could end up being the solution you’ve been looking for.

Couples Therapy Could Save Your Relationship If …

  • You have a specific problem to resolve. Go into therapy with a specific set of issues you and your partner would like to see resolved. Don’t waste your time and money by going into therapy without a clear set of goals.
  • You fail to understand why you keep having the same fight. Every individual has triggers – specific things that bother them that wouldn’t necessarily bother others. Triggers often leave the other partner at a loss for what the issue is or why it’s even an issue at all. A therapist can effectively facilitate a discussion on these triggers and help couples understand the basis for these reactions without the name-calling or finger-pointing.
  • You want an honest outlook on your relationship. Therapists won’t endorse a relationship if he or she thinks you’re better off apart, and won’t sabotage a relationship that’s worth working on. You’ll have access to an unbiased view that you can’t necessarily get from family or friends. However, your therapist won’t push you in one direction or the other. Whether you stay together or not is a decision only you and your partner are able to make.
  • You’re ready to put it all out there. Therapy is all about full disclosure. It’s essential. Throughout therapy, your therapist will ask you about your relationship as a whole, not just what you feel needs to be worked on, as well as your respective relationship histories. Your answers will help the therapist identify your communication styles and your past relationships will make it easier to identify recurring patterns. Be fully prepared to participate in the process, or neither of you will benefit.

Couples Therapy Is Not For You If…

  • You’re looking for someone to take your side. Therapy isn’t one-sided. Both partners need to acknowledge that changes need to be made – in both his behavior and yours. Basically, keep an open mind and be prepared to hear good and bad about yourself, not just your partner.
  • You haven’t been in your relationship for a long time. If you’re heading to therapy before the one-year mark, it may be time to reassess your relationship: Are you truly compatible? What are the chances of a long-term relationship blossoming?
  • If you’re trying to sort out trivial matters, such as laundry or dish duty. Unless there is a true inability to communicate, therapy is best for dealing with issues that the two of you aren’t capable of sorting out on your own – like infidelity.
  • You want to dominate the session. You must prepare to listen and stay silent when your partner speaks or is giving their point of view. Growth can’t happen if you continuously interject when someone else has the floor.

Whether your relationship works out or not – and I hope it does – therapy is a chance and an opportunity to learn more about yourself and the way you interact with the people in your life. This could never be a bad thing. Good luck!

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Thursday, 10 April 2014 22:53

30 Days of Made | Day 11: R.A.I.N.N.

30 Days of Made // April 11, 2014

This article was part of our series "30 Days of Made: Giving Back." In an effort to create social change, each day we will highlight one charity or non-profit organization, and provide information on how you can support them by giving back. Click here to read more!

Did you know that every two minutes an American is sexually assaulted? It’s scary to think about.

RAINN, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, aims to bring awareness and help end these victims’ pain. Named one of "America's 100 Best Charities" by Worth Magazine, RAINN created the National Sexual Assault Hotline and partnered with more than 1,100 rape crisis centers across the country in order to help victims of abuse. Not only do they work with local rape crisis centers to help those in need, they also inform policymakers and news outlets in order to bring more attention to the issue.

Each year, there are about 237,868 victims of sexual assault in the US. While this number is astonishing, what is even more surprising is the fact that 60 percent of these assaults go unreported. Fear, shame, and depression keep those who have been attacked from reporting these crimes or even sharing their stories with loved ones. RAINN provides the space and confidentiality that these victims need to feel comfortable sharing their stories and working through the issues that their abuser have caused. Since victims of sexual assault are three times more likely to suffer from depression, thirteen times more likely to abuse alcohol, and four times more likely to contemplate suicide, it is important for them to have an outlet like the National Sexual Assault Hotline to provide them with immediate assistance in dealing with these issues.

Get Involved With RAINN!

The work that RAINN does is important and necessary. Ninety two percent of every dollar donated goes to victims of sexual assault and abuse. If you would like to support their mission use the buttons below or tweet at them at @RAINN01!

Published in Current
Friday, 20 December 2013 20:33

Business | How to Network at Company Events

Business // December 20, 2013

It's not uncommon for business professionals to spend a large amount of their time attending conferences, business meetings and company events. It is during these times that a person needs to put his or her networking skills to work, connecting with people who can help him or her to grow as a working professional. Thankfully, there are several ways to effectively network at company events. Let's dive in and take a look at six tips you can follow to improve your networking.

Tip 1) Hang Out in the Lounge Area

Chances are, there will be a speaker or two that you aren't that interested in listening to. During these times, let your feet guide you to a nearby lounge room. You are likely to find other people hanging out in the area. Whether it be a sponsor, company CEO or just another guy or gal like you, mingle among them and let your networking skills shine. Find out why they are there, who they work for, and most importantly, ask how you all can be of benefit to one another. Chances are, all of you can offer valuable advice to one another.

Tip 2) Differentiate Yourself

You need to get noticed at your company events. To do this, there needs to be something about you that stands out from the crowd. Whether it be wearing lime green shoes or a blue dotted tie, find your signature style and stick to it from one company event to another. As time goes by, sponsors and investors who attend the events will come to notice you; this can help you land that next investment you need to start your own company. 

Tip 3) Take Any and All Business Cards

While it's a good idea to have a handful of business cards on you at all times to give away, make sure you collect them as well. For anyone that you come in contact with who you want to stay in touch with, ask for a business card and offer them one as well. 

Tip 4) Use Mobile Apps

Chances are the event you’re going too will offer an app for you to download on your smartphone. If you’re the one organizing the event for your company, plan on using the DoubleDutch event app. By doing this you will improve the attendee engagement in ways that they’ll not only retain more of the information they learn, but they’ll have fun sharing it too! Check them out for more info on the features their app offers. 

Tip 5) Know Who Is Going to Be There

Before you dash off to your next company event, do a little research. Make sure you know who the speakers are as well as who the people are that will be attending. If there is a speaker or other attendee you really want to catch a few minutes of alone time with, schedule a five minute meeting with him or her prior to the event. In doing this, you don't have run around trying to get the person's attention at the conference.

Tip 6) Be Genuine

If you act fake and/or arrogant, you will turn people away from wanting to talk to you. You have to be genuine. Networking is all about developing meaningful relationships with other business professionals.

To get the most out of your next company event, make sure that you are both interested in what other people have to say, and do your best to be interesting as well. Take time for each person that wants to talk to you, and better yet, make time to talk to the people you want to connect with.

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