Displaying items by tag: How to Made Woman Magazine is an online magazine and networking platform for women. We discuss style, love + dating, business, news, entertainment and health. Dare to be MADE. http://madewomanmag.com Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:47:15 +0000 Joomla! 1.5 - Open Source Content Management en-gb Dating | Ask Made Woman: Should You Chase Him? http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/dating/item/943-dating-|-ask-made-woman-should-you-chase-him? http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/dating/item/943-dating-|-ask-made-woman-should-you-chase-him? Dating | Ask Made Woman: Should You Chase Him?

Dating // October 13, 2014


Dear Made Woman,

I've been seeing this great guy that I met on a dating website. He’s a successful lawyer, is intelligent, financially stable and all around a great catch. We hung out a few times and everything was good. I called him one night and he said he was out and would call me the following day. It's been one week and I haven't heard from him. All these other articles say to "give him space and then contact him in a few days to check in” or “just sit back and let things work themselves out.”  They also say that I should let him “chase” me. What gives? What should I do?

Signed,

Confused

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Dear Confused,

What should you do? I'll tell you what you shouldn't do. You don't need to call him and "check on him" or "make sure he's OK" (sweetheart he is grown man and he's fine). Stop reading these articles that insist on you catering to a guy who doesn't even have the man parts to tell you what's really going on with him.  (And please don’t allow the masses to convince you that “busy” is a valid excuse). You also don't need to arrange a girls' happy hour so everyone can sit around and "figure this out" over martinis and snacks. So to answer your question of, "What should I do?" DO NOTHING but LEAVE HIM ALONE. And I don’t mean “give him space” and secretly wait for his call. I mean truly leave him alone...out of sight and out of mind.This whole idea of a man chasing a woman is over-hyped. If you have shown you're interested in him and he hasn't responded, no amount of concerned calls or texts to him and/or nude selfies (you know how who you are…) will change that. Furthermore, do you even want a man around who doesn't think enough of you to call you in seven days? Move on and meet a new man, one that doesn't require an introductory course in common courtesy. When he does decide he's tired of dealing with whoever he is dealing with and gives you a call, you'll be so over him it won't matter to you one way or the other. (Although I’m sure his excuse will be a good one… Now, THAT will be worth sharing over drinks). Don't be weighed down by these games, just laugh and move on.

Stay Made,

Trisha DuVivier

Made Woman Staff Writer

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Dating Mon, 06 Oct 2014 15:22:00 +0000
Fashion | Fall Fashion Ideas For Made Men http://madewomanmag.com/style/fashion/item/942-fashion-|-fall-fashion-ideas-for-made-men http://madewomanmag.com/style/fashion/item/942-fashion-|-fall-fashion-ideas-for-made-men Fashion | Fall Fashion Ideas For Made Men

Fashion // October 13, 2014

Autumn is my favorite season as a fashion designer and stylist for two reasons. For starters, it's not that hot on the West Coast and not too cold yet for you East Coasters. Second, you can wear a mix of casual summer pieces and winter styles and not look awkward. Running my own clothing line Michael Ferrera Custom Clothing means that I must stay on top of the latest trends. I’m just back to LA from fashion events in Las Vegas and New York so, in the interests of helping out all the Made Men out there, I’ll share the top five style tips gentlemen should have this season. 


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The Dress Boot

This is a style trend that ladies have used for years but through GQ, Esquire and all the other gentleman mags the dress boot has become more acceptable for men in the professional world. Hugo Boss, Allen Edmonds, and John Varvatos do a great dress boot, but you can find a bunch of comparable options.


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Scarves

Quite frankly the skinny tie is becoming the norm and a tie is always appropriate in corporate America. But if you really want to showcase your style opt for a scarf. Ditch the tie but accent your suits and shirts with cashmere, silk and wool scarves instead. A bit of unexpected flair is sure to turn heads.



Burgundy

Burgundy is a color that we in the fashion world have been exploring for a while now and it seems like it is here to stay. It adds some color when you wear ties, hats and accessories but you can also wear it this season in large pieces like suits and overcoats. It’s a bold statement but definitely can be pulled of by a confident gentleman in the fall.




Layer your style.

This is not a new trend for the season but many gents just forget about it. Rather than keeping it casual on a date, rock an overcoat or a vest. Going somewhere fancy? Go for it with a three piece suit that will show how polished and grown up you are. Put in some effort to your wardrobe and layer your style this season.





Drop-crotch sweat pants

Drop-crotch has been a stylish buzzword the past few seasons and it’s definitely a cool edition to your casual wear. This is not your first date outfit, but it works for your quick run to the mall, the market or your Saturday brunch date. Add some cool sneakers, a nice T-shirt and beanie to the drop-crotch sweats and she’ll think that you stay fresh for every occasion.



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Weddings | How To Do A Bachelorette Party In Vegas http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/weddings/item/935-weddings-|-how-to-do-a-bachelorette-party-in-vegas http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/weddings/item/935-weddings-|-how-to-do-a-bachelorette-party-in-vegas Weddings | How To Do A Bachelorette Party In Vegas

Weddings // September 9, 2014

After The Hangover films were released, Las Vegas once again became the sought after destination to spend your last big night before entering wedlock. So here a few top tips for all you brides-to-be for planning a trip to the bright lights and casinos of Viva Las Vegas.

Where to go?

The agenda you choose for your bachelorette night will probably be determined by the size of the budget you have for it. If you want to keep costs down, then you can always hit one of the casinos in your hotel for the night. On the other hand, if you want to step out a bit more, you can try your hand a more up-market casino like the Bellagio or Caesars Palace. However, if you're a tech geek, then you have the opportunity to even play games at online casinos in New Zealand. If you want to get out and see the city there are numerous clubs, shows and restaurants to try.

What to wear?

Let’s keep it classy ladies! The matching t-shirts and novelty outfits are funny but not fashionable. Try something new and dress like you are a grown woman on your bachelorette night. A cute dress will do. And if you have to make a scene, add a “I’m The Bride!” button or sash.

What to play?

While you might be tempted to hit the poker tables, if you have never played before your bachelorette, this is probably not the best place to start. Casino games like the slots will be the best option for those in the group with limited gambling experience (as well as being fast and fun to play). The members of your group who know the ropes a bit more will most likely be attracted to play poker and blackjack.

Have fun and be safe! Remember what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas… unless you’re getting married.


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Social Networking Your Relationship To Death http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/relationships/item/929-social-networking-your-relationship-to-death http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/relationships/item/929-social-networking-your-relationship-to-death Social Networking Your Relationship To Death

Relationships // September 2, 2014

This article was originally posted on Baucemag.com and was written by Nicole Thompson. 

The core issue with “total access” is that it undermines trust. Any truth that your lover tells you can be undone by speculation, misinformation or by small lies and even smaller secrets becoming exposed, igniting insecurities within your relationship. Your partner writing on their ex’s wall or tweeting about being at a concert when he/she was supposed be at home studying becomes ammunition for future relationship warfare as soon as it becomes live information on the internet.

Someone once told me that my relationship wasn’t official until it became “Facebook official,” despite the fact that I’d been in a healthy relationship for over six months. Because I’m not one to succumb to groupthink, I dismissed the notion and continued my relationship without being virtually co-dependent on my partner or using social media outlets as a tool to absorb usually unattainable information…but that’s not to say that I didn’t take a gander every now and then. A close friend of mine, however, fell under the wretched spell of cyber stalking/social media crawling, and let it destroy her 10 year relationship with her fiancé.

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With my good friend, what put the final nail in the coffin of her relationship was that she couldn’t stop obsessing about the fact that her ALL of her fiancé’s exes seemed to wander out of the woodwork, simply to friend him. Then, she found out that her fiancé was having regular conversation with one ex, in particular. This prompted her to snoop further. She gained access to his accounts after stealing his passwords. Once inside, she read all of his personal messages, emails and IMs. The insecurity unraveled her, and when she finally addressed his possible infidelities, all of her “evidence” was weakened by the fact that she attained it through dubious circumstances.

The fact of the matter is, there is a time and a place for social networks and the place is not within the confines of a personal relationship. And, if social media just so happens to be a large part of your relationship, then be mindful of the information that you share, and share with your partner how important it is that they don’t consort with their exes. Also, if you feel like you are too involved in your partner’s virtual life, then perhaps you should have a trial online separation while you work on your physical relationship.


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MW University | Surviving Senior Year Checklist http://madewomanmag.com/business/mw-university/item/926-mw-university-|-surviving-senior-year-checklist http://madewomanmag.com/business/mw-university/item/926-mw-university-|-surviving-senior-year-checklist MW University | Surviving Senior Year Checklist

MW University // August 18, 2014

Sixteen years of sitting in a classroom, and you’re almost there. College is almost over, and soon every friendly face will ask you about your future plans. Some of us can answer the “what are your plans after college” question with grace, charm, and confidence. Others will stumble through our answer, desperately trying to finagle our way around their judgements and our own confusion. This necessary life transition can seem intimidating and it is easy to be fearful of the unknown. But as you hang on to the last days of student life, there are a few things you should do to ensure the easiest transition into “real world adult life” when all of the college fun is over.

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Check out our “Surviving Senior Year Checklist”!


  1. First and foremost, senior year requires a highly organized calendar. Whether you use your phone, an organizer, or Google calendar, it is important to have easy access to your calendar so it may be constantly updated. During the year you will have classes, numerous meetings with mentors and counselors, career fairs, interviews, deadlines, etc., and it is important to stay organized.
  2. Perfect your resume. Now is the time to take a look at all of the jobs, activities and accomplishments you have had while in school, and connect the dots. You want to show employers and admissions personnel how your overall experience as a student allows you to contribute to their organization. Your resume should be tailored for each position that you apply to, but it is good to start off with an exceptional skeleton.
  3. Meet with your academic counselor. You should confirm with your counselor that you will complete all of your required classes before graduation. This meeting is also a good time to review your transcript and resume with your counselor, in case you require a recommendation at a later date.
  4. Meet with mentors, professors, and past employers that you may want to list as a reference or ask to write a recommendation on your behalf at the beginning of the fall and spring semesters. During your first meeting of the year, you should ask any questions you may have regarding your specific industry, go over your resume, and ask if there is anything additional you can do during your last year. In the beginning of the spring semester, you should update these individuals on your progress and request anything you may need for your job quest or graduate school applications (unless you are submitting your applications in the fall).
  5. If you are considering graduate school after college, take your standardized tests and complete your graduate school applications, aiming to submit in the first round of applications, which is usually in November or December.
  6. Take some time to do a thorough search through your social media accounts, and delete any media that may be interpreted as “unprofessional.” That means the albums “beach day with babes” and “red cup function” must disappear. Personal branding is incredibly important at this time. Make sure your brand reflects the person on your resume.
  7. Develop your LinkedIn profile, and add your connections from college and internships. Your peers will be beneficial for your job search now and in the future, and although you want to create new connections, don’t forget about the ones that you already have!
  8. Visit the Career Services and Alumni Office on campus. Believe it or not, it’s their job to keep you connected, and they want to see you succeed! Take the time while you are on campus to introduce yourself. Career Services is also a great place to get feedback on resumes and cover letters--take advantage!
  9. NETWORK! Attend job fairs, resume workshops, panel discussions, profession-related events, and anywhere else that you may make a valuable connection. You may not see the value in some connections now, but all connections may benefit you down the line. Build professional relationships now, and you will be glad you did later.
  10. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS. After graduation, things will change. Some friends will move across the country; some friends will be unemployed; some friends will be so employed that they disappear off the face of the earth; and, some friends will get married and start families. All in all, you will never have the opportunity to hang out like you do now. Go on vacation with your BFF! Take advantage of your last spring break! Party like a rockstar with your gals! Because pretty soon responsibility will take precedent over friendship--that’s just adult life.
  11. HAVE FUN! You have the rest of your life to be an adult, and only one year left of college. Take advantage of the events, free food, and resources! You might as well go out with a BANG!


Feeling nervous about your senior year or plans after? Watch these TED Talks.






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Makeup Made Easy With Celebrity Makeup Artist Brandy Allen http://madewomanmag.com/style/beauty/item/900-makeup-made-easy-with-celebrity-makeup-artist-brandy-allen http://madewomanmag.com/style/beauty/item/900-makeup-made-easy-with-celebrity-makeup-artist-brandy-allen Makeup Made Easy With Celebrity Makeup Artist Brandy Allen

Beauty // July 21, 2014

Not every artist uses paper and paint. Some use a guitar or a cupcake tin. Brandy Allen uses a mascara wand. A professional makeup artist to the stars, with clients including model/actress Jessica White and singer Marsha Ambrosius, Brandy Allen uses her passion and her pursuit of all things pretty to make people look as beautiful on the outside as they feel on the inside. Her work has transformed some of our favorite stars and graced red carpets everywhere. Recently, she was featured in Essence Magazine. We caught up with this beauty expert and had her break down some of our favorite celebrity looks.

Makeup Made Easy With Celebrity Makeup Artist Brandy Allen


Brandy Allen: The inspiration behind Uzo Aduba's (Orange is the New Black) look was red carpet ready. Soft neutrals with a smokey eye.

Step 1: Skin
- Prep the skin with an oil controlling moisturizer and a mattifying gel.
- Apply Keyvn Aucoin Liquid Airbrush Foundation and powder the skin lightly in shiny areas.
- Use Iman's Clay Bronzer around the face for a soft glow and highlight.

Step 2: Eyes and Cheeks
- Apply Bobbi Brown 'Charcoal' Eyeshadow all over the lid and around the bottom lash line.
-Add a small wing liner at the top with Stila's 'Stay All Day Liquid Eye Liner'.
- Use Anastasia's Brow Wiz in 'Ebony'.
- Add individual lashes with Loreal Volume Million Lashes mascara.
- Add Bobbi Brown Shimmer Blush in 'Coral'.

Step 3: Lips
-Use MAC's Chestnut lipliner with Viva Glam V lipstick and gloss.



Brandy Allen: The inspiration behind Michelle William's look look was a bright lip with bronzy skin.

Step 1: Skin
- Prep and moisturize the skin.
- Apply Cover FX Full Coverage foundation on the face, this can also be used as a concealer under the eyes and on any blemishes.
- Highlight under the eyes, forehead, nose and chin with Ben Nye's Banana Powder.

Step 2: Eyes and Cheeks
- Apply MAC 'Texture' and 'Bamboo' on the lid and crease, conceal the brow bone.
- Use Anastasia's Brow Wiz in 'Ebony'.
- Add Dior Show Mascara top and bottom.
- Add NARS 'Taj Mahal' blush.

Step 3: Lips
- Finish this look with Maybelline 'Fuchsia Fever 140' with clear lip gloss.



Bandy Allen: The inspiration behind Angela Simmon's look was a classic red lip and bronzed skin.

Step 1: Skin
- Prep the skin with an illuminizing primer (MAC Strobe Cream). This hydrates, preps and smooths the skin with an iridescence.
- Apply Dior Nude Skin with a double fiber blending brush. Conceal any pigmentation with Cover FX Full Coverage.
- Dust Iman's Clay bronzer around the face and on the contour of the cheek.
- Highlight the cheeks, nose and chin with Benefit Cosmetics High Beam.

Step 2: Eyes and Cheeks
- Apply MAC's 'Woodwinked + Teddy Kohl eyeliner.
- Use Anastasia's Dip Brow in Dark Brown.
- Add your favorite lash strip, I used Whip Your Lash 'Fancy' with Younique 3-D Fiber Mascara.
- Add NARS Orgasm blush to the cheek.

Step 3: Lips
- Finish this look with MAC Ruby Woo Matte Lipstick.




Brandy Allen: The inspiration behind Mya's look was a fresh, clean face with minimal makeup. I wanted her to look perfect and angelic.

Step 1: Skin
- Prep the skin with an illuminizing primer (MAC Strobe Cream). This hydrates, preps and smooths the skin with an iridescence.
- Apply Dior Nude Skin with a double fiber blending brush. Conceal any pigmentation with Cover FX Full Coverage.
- Dust MAC's Mineralized Skinfinish as a bronzer to add dimension and glow. On the highlights of the face, add Smashbox's Artificial Light Luminizer.

Step 2: Eyes and Cheeks
- Apply MAC 'Amber Lights' on the lid, 'Espresso' in the crease and Teddy Kohl Eyeliner top and bottom.
- Use Anastasia's Brow Wiz in 'Ebony'.
- Add your favorite lash strip, I used Whip Your Lash 'Fancy' with Chanel Volume Mascara top and bottom.
- Add NARS Orgasm blush to the cheek.

Step 3: Lips
- Finish this look with MAC Snob Lipstick and Viva Glam V gloss.


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Beauty Mon, 21 Jul 2014 10:18:09 +0000
Beauty | Beauty Hacks That Really Work http://madewomanmag.com/style/beauty/item/872-beauty-|-beauty-hacks-that-really-work http://madewomanmag.com/style/beauty/item/872-beauty-|-beauty-hacks-that-really-work Beauty | Beauty Hacks That Really Work

Beauty // May 19, 2014

Beyonce may have “woke up like this” but being cute isn’t as easy for everyone else. Knowing how to correctly apply your makeup, keep up with trends and do it all flawlessly is time consuming. Here are some helpful beauty hacks that will both save you time, and help you put your best face forward.

1. Use Mascara as Eyeliner

In a pinch and only have mascara? Your mascara can also double as eye liner. Take an eyeliner brush and dip it into the mascara. Apply the mascara to the the eye just as you would a gel liner and add some drama to your makeup look.




2. Depuff with Green Tea

Suffering from a few late nights? Reduce under-eye puffiness and redness with green tea. Soak green tea bags in warm water to seep and then refrigerate until cold. Squeeze out excess water and place on eyes for five to ten minutes. The antioxidants and caffeine in the tea will reduce reduce redness and tighten skin.

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3. Use Advil to Zap Pimples

Got a surprise pimple on the day of a big event? Don’t bust out the concealer, use Advil to zap it. Pierce or cut a gel capsule and apply directly onto the affected area. The anti-inflammatory medicine used to treat aches and pains will reduce any redness and swelling caused by unsightly blemishes.




4. Use Toothpaste to Whiten Nails

Are you a nail-color addict? We have all been there where that beautiful dark red has left our nails stained and no amount of nail polish remover can get it out. So how can you change from black to pale pink? Use toothpaste to get stains out of your nails. Apply a small amount of whitening toothpaste to each nail and sit for about five minutes before rinsing off. Do this three times a week for nails to look whiter and brighter.

Bonus: You can also make your own whitening paste by combining 2 ½ tablespoons baking soda and 1 tablespoon hydrogen peroxide.




5. Baby Powder as Dry Shampoo

Late again with no time for a shower but have greasy hair? No problem! That neglected bottle of baby powder is just as effective as any dry shampoo. The absorbing powder will soak up oils that collect in your roots. Sprinkle and massage powder into the roots and blow dry to absorb on the go.




6. Make Your Lipcolor Stay All Day

Hate a great lipstick that is gone before lunch? Make sure your lipcolor stays all day, and has a flawless finish with translucent powder. After applying lipstick, hold a tissue over your lips and lightly dust on some translucent powder over the tissue. This will help set lipstick to last all day.





7. Hand Sanitizer To Combat Shine

Got a mid-afternoon shine? That hand sanitizer in your purse could come in handy. Rub a small amount on shiny areas of your face, especially the T-zone. Besides the alcohol in the hand sanitizer which dries up excess water, there are also other ingredients similar to silicone that smooth like a primer and give your skin a protective coat that lock in moisture, reducing shine.




8. Remove Makeup With Vaseline

Out of makeup remover? Vaseline works just as good as the best cleanser. Put a small amount of Vaseline on a washcloth or cotton swab and rub on to remove stubborn eye makeup, lipstick or mascara.





9. Use a Spoon to Get the Perfect Winged Eye Liner

Want to get the perfect winged look with your eye liner? Use a spoon to help guide you like the photo above. Hold the straight part of the spoon against the outside corner of your eye and trace the line upwards. Take the round end of the spoon and place above your eye and trace until the lines meet. Fill in and smudge to get the perfect winged shape in no time that is even on both sides.



10. Get Soft Lips With a Toothbrush

Your toothbrush can do more than just clean your teeth. It’s also a great tool to exfoliate your lips. Moisten your toothbrush and rub lightly in circles on lips to exfoliate and remove dead skin. Regular exfoliation ensures super-soft lips.


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Beauty Mon, 19 May 2014 07:10:22 +0000
Made Mommy | 5 Tips For Getting Baby's Room Ready http://madewomanmag.com/lifestyle/made-mommy/item/870-made-mommy-|-5-tips-for-getting-babys-room-ready http://madewomanmag.com/lifestyle/made-mommy/item/870-made-mommy-|-5-tips-for-getting-babys-room-ready Made Mommy | 5 Tips For Getting Baby's Room Ready

Made Mommy // May 19, 2014

I’ll be honest: Setting up my baby’s nursery hasn’t exactly been as fun as I imagined it would be. Living in the land of the expensive San Francisco Bay Area real estate means baby is coming home to a two-bedroom apartment instead of the large, lovely house I imagined I’d have when I started to have children. But alas, we’re working with what we’ve got, and with a bit of organization and planning, our nursery has really come together—just in time for baby girl’s due date.

Since this isn’t our permanent residence, I didn’t want to go overboard and create one of the adorable baby wonderlands I’ve seen on Pinterest. I have a feeling that few moms really do the dream nursery, anyway. Here’s the approach I took to get my baby’s room ready so that it’s still a sweet, cozy space that will meet our family’s needs.

Clear Out The Clutter

Unless you already have an empty room waiting to become a nursery, you’ll likely need to de-clutter your current space to make it baby ready. This is important: Before bringing any new stuff in, get the old stuff out. Make a few Goodwill donations, reorganize your living space and clean out the closet. That way, when all the baby gifts and goodies start accumulating, there will be space for it all and you won’t get overwhelmed.

Paint

If you plan to paint the room or change out flooring, etc., be sure to do it after clearing out the space and before bringing in new stuff. We can’t paint in our apartment, but if you can and want to, this is the time to do it.

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Set Up The Basics

Before installing fancy window treatments, special lighting or custom wall art, be sure to set up the room with the essentials. Usually that means a crib, dresser, changing table (dresser/changing table combo, in my case), a glider, and possibly a bookshelf or nightstand. Once there’s a place for baby to sleep, get changed and be rocked and fed, you can jazz up the space with accessories. Be sure to allow plenty of time for furniture assembly!

Wash Everything

After all the furniture is in, it’s time to wash all the blankets, bedding and baby clothes. Believe me, there’s more to wash than you might think! Be sure everything that is washable and will touch your baby’s skin gets a run through the washing machine before you use it.

Accessorize

Now the fun part (and also the part that I’ve been putting off). Once you have everything in place, washed and ready to go, you can add those finishing touches that give the room personality and pizzazz! I’ve been checking out cute area rugs, handmade art, decorative mirrors and pretty window treatments. I haven’t totally figured out where I want to take the décor, but it’s fun to work through the process.

So, Made mommies and mommies-to-be, what’s your advice? How did you set up your baby’s room, and is there anything missing here that you’d recommend?


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Relationships | How To Find Balance In Your Relationship http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/relationships/item/868-relationships-|-how-to-find-balance-in-your-relationship http://madewomanmag.com/love-dating/relationships/item/868-relationships-|-how-to-find-balance-in-your-relationship Relationships | How To Find Balance In Your Relationship

Relationships // May 19, 2014

This is for all the women out there that want it all (myself included): a thriving career, close friends and a fulfilling relationship with a “special someone.” But what’s the problem when you have everything at your feet and the “world is your oyster?” There are simply not enough hours in the day to enjoy and dedicate yourself to everything.

I was inspired to write this piece based on my own personal struggles to have it all. A few years ago, after just moving to LA, I had a few pieces of the puzzle: a promising relationship and a brand-new masters degree from USC—but I didn’t have many close friends and I was just on my way to building a career path.

Fast forward a few years later, and today, I have everything in spades. That promising relationship turned into a marriage, budding friendships turned into close friends and my career became more focused with every step. Granted, I am still working out the ins and outs of how to have (and enjoy) it all, but here are a few tips that have helped me and my marriage along the way.

1. Set Clear Goals and Communicate Them

One of the most important pieces of my life is my relationship with my husband. He is one of my biggest supporters when things are great (and when things go south in other parts of my life). Balancing a demanding career and a relationship (or marriage in my case) means open communication. We frequently discuss what’s happening at work and our goals. I know where he’s headed at work with both his short and long term plans for himself and he knows the same about me. We tell each other what’s going on and during periods of high work volume or unique opportunities, (like a networking event) we allow each other time to take advantage. Frequent communication and discussions make us a team in both home and career.

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2. Keep a Calendar

Juggling so many activities, events and dates is difficult, but making and keeping a clear calendar is key. I have a work calendar of course, but a home calendar is just as important. This way, both of us know when we have a dinner, late meeting or other event without getting flustered at the last minute over a forgotten commitment. A calendar is also a great way to keep track of your goals and check up on progress. If things are super hectic, (especially if you have kids too) you can use Google’s calendar which you can share with your honey.

3. Make a List

I am a big list maker. I love them! Grocery lists, shopping lists, travel lists, to-do lists, it’s part of my process and organization. Make a list of your projects, pending items, goals and specific tasks. Organize them by priority level and due dates. Include items that mean extra time at the office. If you know that you have to put in extra work time one weekend for instance, you might need to schedule your grocery shopping during the week to be able to spend your remaining free time with your partner. Making a list also helps you keep things in perspective and be realistic about your time commitments.

4. Set Work Limits

If I didn’t force myself to “unplug” from work, I would end up working 24/7. After spending too many anxiety-ridden weekends worrying about work, I have learned that you have to disconnect and take a breather. My husband and I have a rule not to check work emails past a certain time at night (or even if I slip up and do, I make a point of not responding until the next work day). Get into the habit of sticking to your “work hours,” whatever those might be and really allowing yourself to enjoy something else.

5. Schedule Dedicated Time

Be it a nice dinner or a day a beach, set dedicated time to appreciate your significant other and make sure that you are only going to be doing that one thing during this precious time. At dinner, don’t check work emails, and at the beach, logout of Facebook. Enjoy what’s in front of you and make the most of moments designated for family, friends and loved ones.

6. Work on Projects Together

As a counterpart to dedicated time, I also like to align my goals with those of family and friends. Chances are, your partner (and maybe even your friends) want to be involved in all the cool things you’re doing. Invite them to a networking event or include your partner in your passion projects.

7. Allow Yourself to Grow

As more things are added to your to-do list, and as commitments grow, it’s also important to know that no one is perfect and everything might not get done each week. There are plenty of weeks where my to-do list is neglected in favor of a movie night on the couch—and that is OK. Allow yourself to make mistakes, learn what works best for you and your boo and where your priorities are. But most of all, invest in things that make you happy. After all, living a fulfilling life is the end goal. Learn how you can get there by experimenting and trying different things.

What are you doing to balance your home and work life? Leave us a comment or tweet us @MadeWomanMag!

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Business // April 22, 2013 

Whenever I work with clients, I’m a little bit of a party pooper. I’m always reminding them about CAN-SPAM laws and Facebook regulations. I’m not the cool consultant who lets you underage drink at my house and won’t tell your parents. Over here it’s lights out at 10 with a cup of warm milk.

That might not be for everyone, and I totally get that. But it’s my job as a professional to work ethically and keep my clients up-to-date.

And there’s a reason I really like following the rules – because as a consumer, it really irritates me when brands break them! Especially when it comes to email communications. Recently, I’ve received a few emails that I never opted in to receive and that have no way – that I can identify – to opt out. So, my only option would be to send an email directly to the person and hope that she removes me from her list. That’s not cool. It’s awkward and annoying. And, it’s against the rules.

Spamming people does not make them want to buy your product. It does not make people want to refer their colleagues to you. It just makes them mad and then, in turn, makes them passively aggressively write nasty articles about you.

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So, if you’re thinking about sending emails to your clients and prospects (which can be a very effective strategy for some businesses) here’s what you should do:

  • Set up an account with MailChimp. It’s free and very easy to use.
  • Create a list and opt-in form in your new account. You can even add a code on your website and Facebook page to capture addresses.
  • Promote your sign-up form. Publicize it on Twitter, Facebook and in your email signature line. Send personal emails to your contacts asking that they sign up and give them a great reason why (discounts, tips, VIP access…)
  • Generate great content and send it to the people that WANT it.

When you use a service like MailChimp, you are sure that everyone has opted in and that they can easily opt out if the information is no longer needed. It’s a simple and free process and it will actually help build your list beyond people you know personally or have met at a networking event.


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